Being Blunt Is Not Always A Good Thing

It's been awhile since I've blogged anything.

I don't want to be one of those people that blog everyday when I don't have

anything to say.

Tonight...I have something to say.

I'll do my best to make this form some kind of thought that makes sense.

In an attempt to not call people out I'll try to not use names...

Its no secret that I was bullied in middle school and high school.

I was always the girl that while I had a lot of friends, I didn't have a lot of close friends.

I didn't have a group that I belonged to so I just kind of floated.

I wasn't a loner, a jock, a cheerleader, a theater kid, a geek or a nerd.

I was a nobody for as far as I can tell.

In college I did well for myself but for the most part I kept to myself unless it was a group

project.  I feared that the people in College would bully me the same way that 

people in high school did. 

After my first year of college I ended up in a relationship with someone that I thought

loved me.  I thought they understood me, accepted me, and loved me

for who I was.

I would've given them the stars if I could've.

Instead I got bloody lips, black eyes, broken ribs, and a broken heart.

I was called names and put down.

I felt like this is all I was good for because its what I was used to anyway. 

But one night I had just had enough. Had enough of being ignored, being hit, being put down...

I was better than all of that.

So I left. 

I still remember the day that I saw my friends for the first time in months.

It took a few months, but someone very dear to me finally convinced me

that I was better than that, that I was strong and she had taught me better.

Since that day I haven't looked back.  I am now outspoken, I stand up for myself,

and lord help the person that tries to put their hands on me!

With all of that being said I want to touch on something else.

There is someone I am...well I know of this person and counted this person a friend until recently.

What upset me most was finding out this person is actually 26...but because of the way they act...I would have thought they were no older than 21 or 22...If that tells you anything to start.

This person (lets name them A) started to date an actual friend of mine (we will name them person B)

Now I am friends with B before I am friends with A...naturally I will always back this person no matter what ANYONE says...however, I do know how to take a step back and look at the full picture and I am not past hearing both sides of the story.

Normally when listening to two sides, you take the details that are similar and build your own account of what happen, and everything else is just junk.

But what do you do when the stories have no similarities?

After their break up I tried to be friends to both..but A made it too difficult. 

Constantly whining about the negative in their life, never able to see the positive.

Always going on with a "poor me" attitude with everything but never willing to do anything to change it.

I had finally had enough of A when a status came up talking about how no one knew what it was really like and no one understood what they were going through.

I finally told A that they needed to look on the bright side, I told them to put on their grown up panties and start focusing on the positive things in their life instead of ALWAYS asking people to feel sorry for them.

The response I got from "friends" was

"Sometimes putting on grown up panties doesn't fix the problem."

I never said it does, I just said to do it and start the healing process.

Moving on.

Recently A has posted a picture on FB of their face claiming that they were beaten by B. 

A goes on in their comments to talk about what a looser B is, how awful B is, and how karma is going to come back around. 

I don't want to be involved in it, because I just can't handle A anymore or their crap.

I am INFURIATED by the things A is saying and while I know B isn't getting involved..I need to say this.

A is a lying sack of shit. 

B laid there and took it until they couldn't any longer and at that B only fought back in an attempt to protect themselves and in an attempt to stop the fight.

I have also seen, WITH MY OWN EYES, the messages from A to b.

All of them. 

The messages of A BEGGING for B to take them back, messages admitting to what they did to B,

apologizing for what they did.

I've seen all of it. 

I know that what A is saying is a Lie. 

Worst of all, A is running around talking about how awesome they are and saying nothing but hateful and ugly things about B. 

And people are believing A.

I have never seen a more...untruthful person in all my life and I would like nothing more than 10 minutes with A.

A thinks they are bad, that they can out bitch someone, and that they can say anything they want?

I'd love to show A just how bad I am.